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Natalie and Nuala

I first became aware of Stonewall in the late 1990s. I’m American and my wife’s Scottish.

We were living in the States but we had no legal status based on our relationship and we couldn’t get married. But Nuala had heard about Stonewall’s work with the UK government, which meant that I could potentially have a right to remain there. This news gave us tremendous hope – and it worked! It changed our lives.

It changed our lives.

During my childhood in suburban Virginia, our fight for equality existed in “far away” cities like San Francisco. I met a few out gay people in uni, but I didn’t come out myself until just after, when I moved to London. Part of that was about finding a community.

Stonewall’s work drives real cultural change. My own relationship with them gives me the confidence to challenge banter and stereotypes at work. Stonewall gave me a sort of liberal arts education in diversity and inclusion that I take everywhere. Absolutely invaluable.

My relationship with Stonewall gives me the confidence to challenge banter and stereotypes.

These are really scary times, politically, with a real sense that human rights can be rolled back.

I think Stonewall is one of our great LGBT institutions and I hope that it will survive into the future. Stonewall has a global voice. Solidarity across our communities is more important than ever, as is understanding intersectionality.

We don’t have children, and writing our joint wills was a strangely pleasant thought process of “Who and what do we love? What impact do we want to have when we’re gone?”. I’ve had the advantage of a good education, free of bullying and setbacks because of being gay. I want others to have that too, so I really value the work Stonewall does in schools and with educators. I don’t want the advantages that I’ve had to stop with me.

Stonewall has the kind of reliability and good leadership that makes them a good investment. ​​

Stonewall has the kind of reliability and good leadership that makes them a good investment. I hope that Stonewall will be there to have the backs of LGBT people far into the future, and from everything I can see in the world, there’s going to be a lot more to do for a long time.

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