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Sex and Care: Speaker Series

The Sex and Care Speaker Series is a space to reframe the narrative on sex, joy and pleasure for QTIBIPoC women and people of minority genders. Join us and some incredible speakers on Zoom for a series of free two talks between 6-7pm on 20th and 27th January 2022! 

This series will provide a safe and informal education space for you learn and share ideas on safer sex, pleasure, self-care and community care. We'll come together to build a network with other QTIBIPoC women and people of minority genders to grow and learn, with a focus on celebration and joy. 

Oppressive structures, such as heteronormativity, cisnormativity and misogyny mean that women and those of minority genders are often excluded or alienated from spaces that educate around safer sex, care and pleasure. This has been exacerbated by the continuous impact of the Covid-19 pandemic, closing spaces and reducing opportunities for connection. These free sessions, built in collaboration with our brilliant speakers and with the kind support of Awards for All, provide an opportunity for us to come together as QTIBIPoC women and people of minority genders to celebrate and affirm sexuality and pleasure in our community! 

This series is open to anyone from the QTIBIPoC community with a lived experience of misogyny, however attendees must be aged 18 or over. If you’re not sure whether these sessions are for you, or you'd like to talk more about the content before booking then please get in touch with and we’d be happy to discuss the sessions with you.

Session One

Community care and pleasure, 20th January 2022, 6pm – 7pm  

Speaker: Sharan (Burnt Roti) - she/her

Sharan Dhaliwal founded, developed and now runs the UK’s leading South Asian magazine Burnt Roti, which is a platform for young creatives to showcase their talent, find safe spaces and destigmatise topics around mental health and sexuality, amongst others. Her particular interests focus on discussing the representations of young women, South Asian women and queer women. She is the Director of Middlesex Pride and creator of Oh Queer Cupid, a queer speed dating and comedy night. She has had bylines in i-D, HuffPost, the Guardian and was on the list of global influential women for the BBC 100 Women 2019. Her debut non-fiction, Burning My Roti, will be out in Feb 2022 by Hardie Grant.

Speaker: Tobi Adebajo - they/them

Tobi Adebajo is a community focused, Anti-Disciplinary artist, Doula, Facilitator, Performer, Spiritual Worker, Singer, Writer and Parent.

They navigate various creative / communal spheres.Their practice primarily focuses on communing with ‘the Other’ via Movement, Sound, Visual & Written formats. Tobi’s 'Afrosexuality Project' is on tour for its fourth year - a platform which fosters inter-generational discourse and worldwide diasporic connections. The project continues to hold space for thought provoking, constructive discourse and uncomfortable questions that prioritise LGBTQIA+ voices inside of conversations about Sex, Desire, & Shame Culture


Session Two

Sex, pleasure and QPOC identity, 27th January, 6pm – 7pm

Speaker: Ruby Rare - she/her & they/them

Ruby Rare is a pink-haired sex educator, author, and public speaker on a mission to get people talking more confidently and inclusively about sex. Her work is influenced by her experiences as a queer, non-monogamous, dual-heritage person. 

Ruby is a proud ambassador for Brook, the UK’s leading sexual health charity for young people, co-founder of life drawing collective Body Love Sketch Club, and has spoken at TedXLondon, Women of the World Festival, and on BBC Woman's Hour. She's listed as one of 24 figures making a positive change to social media in Cosmopolitan's 2021 Positivity Index. In 2020 her debut book Sex Ed: A Guide for Adults was published by Bloomsbury.

In her spare time, Ruby eats an obscene amount of vegan jelly, watches the powerpuff girls, and collects vintage peignoirs.

Speaker: Gayathiri Kamalakanthan (Decolonising Contraception) - they/she

Gayathiri queers-up spaces through making visible the stories of gender non-conforming people of colour who have been erased throughout history. They work with activist organisations, including Decolonising Contraception, School of Sexuality Education and Mainspring Arts. Gayathiri is the founder of Inclusive Tamil Arts, a community space for the Tamil diaspora to create care-oriented art.


Each session will last for one hour and be delivered on Zoom, you are welcome to register for either or both of the sessions and you will recieve a link to join closer to the date.


We want our events to be accessible to everyone. All attendees should expect to feel safe, welcome and included at our events. Please see our access statement for this series here. 

These sessions will run via Zoom with up to 50 participants. Here is a link to the accessibility features Zoom offers.

We will have members of the team on Tech and Wellbeing support throughout each session.

If you have any access needs, please email and we will accommodate these.