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What is domestic abuse?
'Anyone can be a victim of domestic abuse, regardless of gender, age, ethnicity, socio-economic status, sexuality or background. There are different kinds of abuse that can happen in different contexts. The most prevalent type of domestic abuse occurs in relationships. But the definition of domestic abuse also covers abuse between family members, such as adolescent to parent violence and abuse.' - UK Government.
Domestic abuse can cover from gaslighting to threatening to ‘out’ someone – this is anti-LGBT abuse. Domestic abuse is never the fault of the person who is experiencing it.
The Domestic Abuse Interventions Program have designed a power and control wheel called the Duluth model - this model details examples of abuse.
A report by The Scottish Transgender Alliance indicates that 80% of trans people had experienced emotional, sexual, or physical abuse from a partner or ex-partner.
The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey 2010 Findings on Victimization by Sexual Orientation released in 2013 (US) found that bi women are almost twice as likely to be abused as straight women. This is anti-LGBT abuse.
Please see below this helpful diagram that shows examples of biphobic abuse produced by theNetworklaRed in the US:
COVID-19 links to practical support
·This guidance explains how you can contact the police without having to speak or give your location.
·You can get confidential support by visiting a consultation room in any Boots pharmacy
·Guidance for people experiencing domestic abuse during the COVID-19 crisis from SafeLives
Places to go for help and support
If you feel you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call the Police on 999.
Police – can call 101 if non-urgent otherwise use online mechanisms.
NHS online - call 111.
Galop are trans inclusive and are welcoming of anyone from the LGBT+ community (including those who are questioning their identity). Contact them to receive support if you are a victim of sexual violence, hate crime or domestic abuse. The national LGBT domestic violence helpline is 0800 999 5428 and email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Bi-survivors network – support bi women and non-binary people. They provide a space where bi survivors of sexual and/or domestic violence can talk and find solidarity.
Survivors Network – provide localised support services in Sussex and have extensive online resources and the link provided there is to LGBT specific resources for survivors of domestic and/or sexual violence.
Broken Rainbow offer a domestic violence helpline to LGBT people, providing confidential support to all members of the LGBT community, their family, friends and the agencies supporting them. The helpline - 0800 999 5428 - is run by trained LGBT people and provides a safe space where you can share your issues and think of next steps.
Women’s Aid provides practical support and information for women experiencing domestic abuse, with simple guidance on every aspect of support. They have a Survivor Handbook . The website has a button which allows you to exit it at any time. Refuge’s 24-hour National Domestic Violence Freephone Helpline is 0808 2000 247.
Respects Men’s Advice Line for help and support visit website or call 0808 801 0327 (Monday - Friday 9am-5pm)
Guides and Guidance
Galop provide lots of factsheets including:
- Domestic Violence and Abuse and the LGBT communities
- For service providers - Barriers
- For service providers - Myths
- Well-being and self-care
- What to do following an incident
Ultimately you are important and deserve to feel safe. If you do not feel safe please contact the organisations above. They want to help you. If you are ever in immediate danger call 999 to speak to the Police.