In today’s Sunday Times, Jenni Murray writes an article in which she enters into what she calls one of the most “vicious, vulgar and threatening debates of our day”. She is talking about trans women, and their right to be called ‘real women’.
Whether you are trans or not, your identity is yours alone. I do not question your identity Jenni, and in return, I wouldn’t expect you to question mine - or anyone else’s. What right would you have to do so? My experiences of being a woman are undoubtedly different to yours. However, their differences do not make them in any way less valid.
My experiences of being a woman are undoubtedly different to yours.
Trans women have every right to have their identity and experiences respected too. They are women – just like you and me - and their sense of their gender is as engrained in their identity as yours or mine.
Being trans is not about ‘sex changes’ and clothes – it’s about an innate sense of self. To imply anything other than this is reductive and hurtful to many trans people who are only trying to live life as their authentic selves.
Why do we think we have the right to debate others’ identities?
Why must this be so ‘vicious, vulgar and threatening’? And why do we think we have the right to debate others’ identities? In a world of increased hostility, fuelling divisions doesn’t help anyone. Please talk to more trans women Jenni; understand their experiences, understand their identities, understand why being an ally is so incredibly important.